When you file for divorce, you'll have to indicate on your divorce petition the reason why your marriage is ending—the "grounds" for the divorce. In some states, divorcing spouses have the option of filing either a "fault-based" or "no-fault" divorce. Other states allow only no-fault divorce.
Here are answers to some of the most common questions about grounds for divorce and related issues.
In a "no-fault" divorce, neither spouse has to prove that the other spouse did something wrong to cause the breakup. All states offer a no-fault divorce option, though the exact "grounds" (reasons) for the divorce vary state-to-state. For example, your state's no-fault grounds for divorce might be called:
Regardless of what the basis for no-fault divorce in your state is called, all of these mean simply that you and your spouse can't get along, and there's no hope of reconciliation. (Note that in a few states, you'll have to live apart for a period of time before a court will grant your divorce, even if it's a no-fault divorce.)
No-fault divorce is less expensive and less time-consuming than a fault-based divorce because the spouses don't need to prove marital misconduct for the court to grant the divorce.
Check out Divorce in Your State to find out more about the grounds for divorce where you live.
Courts will grant a request for a fault-based divorce if:
Only some states allow fault-based divorces.
Common fault-based grounds for divorce include:
The reasons why spouses choose fault-based divorce vary. Some people don't want to wait out the period of separation required by their state's law for a no-fault divorce. And, in some states, a spouse who proves the other's fault might receive a greater share of the marital property or more alimony. For many, though, the choice might be prompted by hurt feelings. No matter what the reason for choosing a fault-based divorce, though, these divorces tend to be more expensive, as many spouses choose to hire a lawyer to help them present their evidence and convince the judge of their arguments.
What if both spouses are at fault? When both parties have engaged in behavior that qualify for a fault-based divorce, the court will grant a divorce to the spouse who is least at fault under a doctrine called "comparative rectitude." Years ago, when both parties were at fault, neither was entitled to a divorce. The absurdity of this result gave rise to the concept of comparative rectitude.
A spouse can't prevent the court from granting a no-fault divorce. Objecting to the other spouse's request for divorce is itself an irreconcilable difference that would justify the divorce.
However, a spouse can prevent a fault divorce by convincing the court that the allegations of fault are false. Or, a spouse might admit wrongdoing but present a defense or reason for their behavior, such as:
In practice, spouses rarely use these defenses. That's because proving a defense often requires producing witnesses or other evidence, and involves a lot of time and expense. And, in the end, these defenses usually fail: Most courts will eventually grant the divorce anyway because there is a strong public policy against forcing people to stay married when they don't wish to be.
All states have a residency requirement that one or both spouses must meet to be eligible to file for a divorce. Often, states require the filing spouse to be a state resident for at least three months or even as long as a year. The filing spouse must provide proof of residence for the required length of time. Only a few states have no time requirement for resident status (being a resident at the time you file is enough).
If you think that your spouse might file for divorce in another state, consider trying to be the first to file—in your own state. Rarely is a divorce settled in one court appearance, and if your spouse files elsewhere, you could rack up a lot of traveling expenses. Also, after the divorce is over, you must file any modifications to the divorce decree, including the property settlement agreement and arrangements for child custody and support, in the state that heard your divorce, which could require you to travel out of state for years to come. (Get more tips on the divorce process in How to Divorce.)
If one spouse meets the residency requirement of a state or country (such as having lived there from six months to a year), a divorce obtained there is valid, even if the other spouse lives somewhere else. The courts of all states will recognize the divorce.
However, a court's decisions regarding property division, alimony, custody, and child support might not be valid unless the court had jurisdiction over (the legal power to make decisions about) the nonresident spouse. The nonresident spouse falls under the court's jurisdiction when:
If you receive divorce documents from a foreign country, you might want to consult an attorney about whether your state court or the foreign court governs the issues. Whether a foreign court has the power to decide issues in your divorce depends on many factors, such as which particular country heard the case, where the parties lived and for how long, and whether children are involved.