It sounds like you can probably qualify for a reverse mortgage, but it might not be your best option.
Reverse mortgages have been touted as a great way for cash-strapped older homeowners and retired persons to get spending money without having to give up their homes. But are these mortgages all that great? Reverse mortgages are complicated, risky, and expensive. Getting this kind of loan generally isn't a good idea.
The most popular reverse mortgage is the FHA's Home Equity Conversion Mortgage (HECM). With a reverse mortgage, you receive payments from the lender based on the equity in your home. The loan generally has to be paid back when you die, move, transfer title, or sell the home. If you breach the terms of the loan contract, though, the lender might call the loan due earlier. Under any of these circumstances, if you don't pay off the loan, you could potentially lose the property to a foreclosure.
Generally, to qualify for a reverse mortgage you must:
Because you're 65 years old, you appear to qualify for a reverse mortgage, but your 40-year old spouse doesn't. One way that used to be popular to get around this eligibility issue was to deed the title to the property solely into the older spouse's name and leave the younger spouse off the reverse mortgage. But this tactic can cause problems.
In the past, reverse mortgages were written so that once the borrower dies, the surviving spouse (who was not named on the loan) was often told they had to repay the loan immediately or else the lender would foreclose on the property.
The law changed. In 2013, a federal court ruled that the HUD regulation that allows lenders to demand that surviving spouses immediately repay reverse mortgage loans upon the death of their spouses violates federal law. Under revised HUD guidelines, for loans issued on or after August 4, 2014, the nonborrowing spouse may remain in the home after the borrower dies (and the loan repayment will be deferred) so long as specific criteria is met. For HECMs taken out before August 4, 2014, the lender can choose to assign the mortgage to HUD and the nonborrower spouse can remain in the home so long as specific criteria is met. (Learn more in Nolo's article Reverse Mortgages: Foreclosure Protections for Nonborrowing Spouses.)
If you're thinking about taking out a reverse mortgage with a nonborrowing spouse, be very careful and be sure to talk to a lawyer or HUD-approved housing counselor to learn how to adequately protect the non-borrowing spouse in this situation.
You—and especially your spouse—are both relatively young to be taking out a reverse mortgage considering the average lifespan in the U.S. is almost 80 years. These mortgages provide a finite number of payments and you could run out of money if you take out a reverse mortgage at this time. And you could spend down the equity in your home early on and then not have enough funds available down the road to cover your later expenses, which could likely include health care costs, leaving money to your heirs, as well as taxes, insurance, and upkeep for the property. Also, keep in mind that to get the reverse mortgage you'll typically first have to pay off the existing mortgage with the reverse mortgage funds.
Other downsides include:
You don't mention why you're thinking of taking out a reverse mortgage, but if you need access to cash, a few other options for you to consider as an alternative to taking out a reverse mortgage include:
It's recommended that you proceed extremely cautiously if you're thinking about taking out a reverse mortgage. Reverse mortgages are very complex. HECM counselors have reported that it often takes at least a couple of hours to explain how these mortgages work and cover all of the topics—including costs and consequences—that borrowers need to understand before taking out this kind of loan.
Even after a HECM counseling session, many borrowers still don't fully comprehend all of the reverse mortgage terms and requirements. Consider also talking to a financial planner, an estate planning attorney, or a consumer protection lawyer to get more information, especially if you don't fully understand the terms of reverse mortgage loans.