As parents and other relatives age, they may need help taking care of their finances at some point. Taking total or partial control of an older relative's finances can be daunting. Here's where to start.
Some older people need someone to handle every aspect of their financial affairs, while others only need help in certain areas. If possible, pinpoint exactly where the difficulties lie and then provide help only where necessary. Here are some examples:
Here's a checklist to assess if an elderly parent or relative needs help with finances.
If your elderly parent or relative has lost track of documents, has failed to pay some bills, or doesn't know about certain income, investments, debts, or something else related to their financial affairs, you'll have to take stock of the situation.
Start by identifying sources of income, bank accounts, and investments. These may include Social Security benefits, pension funds, stocks, bonds, mutual funds, other investment accounts, retirement funds, rental income, savings accounts, checking accounts, and certificates of deposit. Gather information about debts such as mortgage principal, credit card debt, and car loans, and estimate the elder's monthly and annual expenses.
If, after gathering this information, you discover that the older person is in debt trouble or their expenses are greater than their income, you should take immediate action to get the situation under control. (To learn more about how to handle financial troubles, see Nolo's article on what to do if you can't pay your debts.)
You and your older parent or relative should become familiar with the many scams targeting the elderly. Look for warning signs that your older loved one has been the victim of elder financial abuse, and help them take measures to protect themselves in the future. (To learn about common scams targeting the elderly, see Nolo's article on elder fraud and financial scams.)
To help your older parent or relative handle their finances, here are some tools you may want to consider:
The elder can add you or another relative to a checking account as a joint account holder. This makes you joint owner of the funds—both you and your older relative can withdraw and deposit money and write checks. It allows the elder to maintain some independence and control, but allows you to keep an eye on things, pay bills, and handle some (but not all) financial affairs.
However, before you set up joint accounts, carefully consider the possible downsides:
Your older parent or relative can add you as an authorized signer to a checking or savings account, without making you a joint owner. This gives you signature authority on the parent's bank account, meaning you can write checks and withdraw and deposit funds. However, because the authorized signer is not an owner of the account, all transactions must be made on behalf of the elder. The bank doesn't monitor activity, but if cousin Billy absconds with the money, you at least have a legal claim against him. In addition, this means that creditors of the authorized signer can't get at the money in the account.
You can ease the bill paying burden by helping your older relative set up electronic automatic payments or withdrawals for monthly bills. Most utility and telephone companies have automatic payment systems. This eliminates the need for the elder to write checks each month. However, you or the elder should still review the bills to ensure they are accurate.
Most financial firms that host retirement accounts now allow the owner of the account to name a "trusted contact." The financial firm can contact that person if they have a concern. Examples of when a financial company might reach out to a trusted contact include:
As the trusted contact, you could speak to your parent or relative, investigate, and respond whether you believe the activity or transfer is legitimate.
The elder can designate you as their representative payee for Social Security benefits. A representative payee receives the Social Security benefit checks and is responsible for using the funds on behalf of the elder. Representative payees must periodically complete and file a form with the Social Security Administration (SSA) demonstrating how funds were used. To learn more, read our article about representative payees for Social Security.
With a financial power of attorney, the elder gives another person legal authority to act on their behalf. Usually the document gives the designated "agent" or "attorney-in-fact" broad powers to handle the elder's financial affairs. However, a power of attorney can also limit the agent's authority to only certain actions, such as paying monthly bills, preparing annual tax returns, or making investment decisions.
In most states, if you make the power of attorney "durable," it remains in effect even if the elder becomes incapacitated—usually a good idea. This is called a "durable power of attorney." To learn more about financial powers of attorney, see our article on durable financial power of attorneys.
Consider getting help from a professional if you don't have the time or expertise to assist your loved one with every aspect of their finances. Some professionals to consider contacting include:
For more tips on determining whether your elderly relative needs help managing their finances, see our article, Helping Seniors Manage Money and Finances. And for help managing your elderly relative's benefits and possible long-term care needs, you may want to consult the following Nolo resources:
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