Can I Loan My Parents Money as a Reverse Mortgage?

An intra-family reverse mortgage on a home is possible and offers many benefits.

By , CEO, National Family Mortgage


My parents are in good health and living in their own home, though getting on in years. Being fiercely independent, they'd like to stay in that home for as long as possible. However, their home is their biggest asset. It's probably worth over half a million, and is paid off. They haven't done well with their savings, however. (My mom says, "I never expected to live this long!")

They were looking into getting a reverse mortgage, when it occurred to me—my husband and I have a sum of money saved for retirement, and it's not earning much interest. Could we be their lenders, and keep the interest in the family? Is this a good idea? Or should we just make them a straight loan for their living expenses?


Yes, it's possible to offer your parents a reverse mortgage. In fact, doing so offers many benefits in addition to keeping the money that would be spent on interest within the family. If you took part in your parents' hunt for a suitable reverse mortgage, you might have noticed that the available ones all sound alike. That's not a coincidence—institutional lenders (in most cases, banks) are constrained by several federal legal requirements.

Extensive requirements for reverse mortgage approval. For example, the typical reverse mortgage products on the market come with an age minimum (ordinarily 62) and require that the applicant complete a financial counseling session. They also cap the possible loan amount, based on the applicants' age and location.

High loan closing costs and other fees. When it comes to on reverse mortgages, institutional lenders tend to charge high administrative and other closing costs, as well as high interest rates, and insurance fees. These high costs make them not worthwhile for anyone planning to sell the house within a couple of years.

Reverse mortgage payment requirements. At the end of the process (typically, when the borrowers sell or one passes away), the reverse-mortgage loan must be repaid, with interest—taking a big bite out of the home equity that your parents built up over the years. Worse yet, if your parents are unable to repay the loan when it comes due (for example, after one spouse dies), or they get into financial difficulty and can't pay for needed repairs or homeowners' insurance, the lender can foreclose.

Family loans offer flexibility. By structuring a reverse mortgage loan within your family (an "intrafamily" loan) you can offer your parents flexibility as to eligibility and loan-amount requirements, spare them the mandatory counseling session, and keep the vast majority of the home equity and interest money within the family (though you should expect to pay setup and/or administrative costs to lawyers or other service providers).

Family loans are low-risk. The advantage of arranging this as a reverse mortgage instead of an ordinary loan is that it's a low-risk investment for you, too, backed up by the property itself. Of course, if your parents let the house fall into disrepair, then your collateral isn't quite so valuable—but at least they'll have more money tp spend on repairs than had they turned to an institutional lender.

The trick, of course, is structuring the loan in a way that meets legal requirements, serves your and your parents' interests, and takes into account both estate-planning issues and the interests or concerns of your siblings, if any. See Key Steps in Making an Intrafamily Reverse Mortgage Loan for more information.

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