At my law firm, attorneys often socialize with major clients. We are expected to bring our spouses to these events. They are really important to our careers, because they cement important relationships and help bring in more business.
I recently married a man who was born in Afghanistan. A partner mentioned that one of our biggest clients -- a military contractor -- might not be comfortable socializing with him. I pushed back immediately, pointing out that plenty of Afghanis have worked with the U.S. and its contractors in the conflict. And anyway, my husband is a graphic designer who has lived in this country for two decades; he has nothing to do with the war. The partner apologized for his comment, but I haven't been invited to any events with this client since our conversation. If I'm being excluded because of my husband's ethnicity, is that illegal?