Questions:

• What is divorce mediation, and how is it different from arbitration?
• Why is mediation better than going to a lawyer -- or is it?
• What is the difference between court-ordered mediation and private mediation?
• How do mediating spouses protect their legal rights?
• Does the mediator meet with both spouses together or separately?
• How much does mediation cost?
• How long does mediation take?
• How can a divorcing couple find a good mediator?

Answer:

Does the mediator meet with both spouses together or separately?

Some mediators prefer to work separately with each spouse, acting as a go-between. Others prefer joint meetings where both spouses are present and communication is more direct. There can be advantages and disadvantages to each approach, depending on the circumstances of the particular couple. This is a question that divorcing spouses should address in advance with a potential mediator.