Introduction

What does an executor or trustee do, exactly? If you’re like many people, you probably have only a vague idea. Essentially, the executor’s job is to carry out the deceased person’s wishes—making sure that assets go to the people or organizations the deceased person wanted to inherit them. But of course, this simple fact barely hints at the work involved or the emotional aspects of the job. It’s not always easy, but it’s a job that you can do well if you bring to it good measures of patience, common sense, and persistence. Some help from this book, and occasionally from knowledgeable professionals, won’t hurt, either.

Winding up an estate or trust will probably take from six to 18 months, depending on the circumstances and the law in your state. Here’s how it usually goes:

• First week: Immediate practical decisions
• Next few months: Financial and legal matters
• One (occasionally two) years: Taxes. This book will take you through these phases one step at a time.

What Executors Do

As executor, you must collect and take care of the deceased person’s assets, pay debts, and distribute what’s left to the people who inherit it. Sounds pretty straightforward, and in many instances it is. Here’s a little more detail:

Gather the deceased person’s assets. This part shouldn’t be hard, especially if you are familiar with the deceased person’s financial affairs and the assets are typical things such as a house, car, and bank and investment accounts. But if you’re unprepared, and the deceased person leaves behind murky finances and jumbled records, you may have a tougher time knowing what property you’re supposed to take charge of. (The best strategy is to get things straightened out before the death, as explained In Chapter 2; if that’s not possible, see Chapter 4 for help with finding and making sense of financial records and other papers.)

Take care of property. You must safeguard the deceased person’s property (both real estate and personal property) until you hand it over to beneficiaries. For example, if a house or condo is empty, and a car is parked at the curb, you’ll need to make sure both are secure. You may also have to decide whether or not to sell certain assets, either to raise cash or to avoid losing significant value. When it comes to managing investments, your main duty is not to turn a big profit, but to avoid losing money.

Pay debts and taxes. Most people don’t leave behind outsized debts or tax bills, so this isn’t normally a problem. But if the estate doesn’t contain enough money to go around, it can be a headache. You aren’t personally liable for the deceased person’s debts (unless you were married, in which case you may be); you’ll pay them from the deceased person’s assets. You will have to file income tax returns on behalf of the deceased person and, if the estate goes through probate and receives income, on behalf of the estate. Very few estates require federal or state estate tax returns.

Distribute what’s left. You’ll transfer assets to the people who inherit them under the will, under state law, or by contract. This may involve going to probate court, but many assets can be transferred without probate. It will depend on what kinds of assets the deceased person left and how much estate planning was done. These days, many kinds of assets (for example, individual retirement accounts, payable-on-death bank or brokerage accounts, and life insurance policies) can be transferred without going through probate court. In recent years, many states have simplified probate significantly, so even if probate is required, it won’t drag on like a court case in a 19th-century novel. And all states now offer simplified probate for "small estates." What qualifies as a small estate may surprise you: In some states, estates worth hundreds of thousands of dollars can slip under the wire.

Help out. Finally, you may find yourself helping beneficiaries with matters that aren’t, strictly speaking, within your authority as executor. For example, life insurance proceeds aren’t part of the estate, but a beneficiary might want you to help claim policy proceeds.

What Trustees Do

More and more people are using living trusts as substitutes for wills, which means that more and more of their relatives are finding themselves tapped for the job of trustee. Some trusts let people leave their property but avoid probate; others also reduce or avoid estate taxes. Some trusts are created in wills, as a way to manage property if left to children or other beneficiaries who need guidance.

The document that creates the trust names the person to take over when the trust-maker dies. (This person is usually called the successor trustee.) If you’re named as trustee, you take over control of trust assets at the death of the person who made the trust. You don’t have to wait for court approval.

Your job, however, is likely to be broader than just taking care of trust assets. If the deceased person left a will, it probably names you as executor, too. And if there isn’t a will, it usually falls to the trustee to do all the other jobs that traditionally belong to an executor: pay debts, file tax returns, and transfer property that wasn’t held in trust.

Here are the three kinds of trusts you’re most likely to run into:

Simple living trust. A simple living trust is one that has only one purpose: to avoid probate. If you’re wrapping up this kind of trust, you can probably carry out your duties in a few weeks or months. That’s because you don’t have to go through probate court, with all its requirements about notifying creditors and heirs that the estate is being settled. All you do is transfer trust property to the people named in the trust document.

Bypass (AB) living trust. This kind of trust, made by affluent couples who want to avoid estate tax, can last for years after the first spouse dies and involves complex tax planning. You’ll need expert help.

Child’s trust. These trusts are set up so that an adult can manage property left to a child (often a grandchild). If you’re the trustee, you may have to invest and spend trust property for years, until the children are grown. Especially if the trust is for more than one child, you’ll have a lot of decisions to make.

Your Legal Duty

As an executor or trustee, you are in charge of property that belongs to other people (beneficiaries and creditors), and you are following instructions left in a will or trust by someone who is no longer there to supervise you. Because such a situation leaves a lot of room for mischief by a dishonest person, the law requires executors and trustees to act with the highest ethical standards and to follow a set of well-established rules and procedures.

For your efforts, you are entitled to reasonable financial compensation. But your true reward must be the satisfaction of performing an important task well.

An executor has what’s called a "fiduciary duty." It means that you must always act in the best interest of the estate—not your own interests. For example, if you and the deceased person owned a business together, and you want to buy the deceased’s half-interest, you would have to follow a scrupulously fair, open, and competitive process to offer the business interest for sale. The process would have to be run solely for the estate’s benefit, not yours.

Obviously, wasting or stealing estate money would violate your legal duty. Here are a few examples of other acts that could get you into trouble:

• benefiting personally at the expense of the estate—for example, selling yourself estate property
• selling an asset during probate if you don’t have authority
• investing estate assets recklessly—for example, in a volatile stock, or
• arranging things so that one beneficiary ends up with an unfairly large share of assets.

Payment for Serving as an Executor or Trustee

You are probably entitled (under the terms of the will or trust, or by state law) to reasonable compensation for your work as an executor or trustee.

Many family members, however, feel uncomfortable accepting money and don’t take a fee. There’s also a practical reason to decline a fee: It’s taxable income. If you’re inheriting everything anyway, you’re better off waiving the fee and instead inheriting the money, which won’t be subject to income tax. (The exception to this rule comes if estate tax will be due, and your personal rate is lower than the estate’s; in this situation, it may be wise to take the payment as compensation. If the estate is large enough to owe estate tax, you should be consulting a tax expert anyway, so ask about the executor’s fee.)

If your responsibilities are onerous or long-lasting, or you’re not a close relative or friend, it’s perfectly appropriate to accept a fee for your work. You may have been chosen because of your special skills— perhaps you can manage the deceased person’s business until it can be sold, or you have the enviable ability to calm rancor among family members—and it’s only fair that you be compensated.

Just how much you’re entitled to depends on the terms of the will and your state’s law. Most wills don’t set out a specific fee or hourly rate, but under state law in most places, you can claim a "reasonable" fee. It’s up to you to decide what’s reasonable. (If beneficiaries or creditors object, and there’s a probate court proceeding, they can complain to the court, which will review the fee.) Some states, however, let executors claim a percentage of the value of the estate. Still a few others give executors a percentage of the money that flows in and out of the estate, to try to reflect the amount of work the executor must do managing assets.

Dealing With Emotions—Yours and Your Relatives’

Unless you’re a professional, handling an estate or trust is much more than just a legal and financial job. When you’re acting on behalf of a family member or close friend, you must deal with powerful and sometimes complicated feelings about the loss.

These emotional and spiritual issues are, of course, profoundly important and longlasting. This book focuses on the legal and practical aspects of the situation, but there are many sources of emotional sustenance— books, websites, organizations, counselors— in addition to your own network of family and friends. Every resource has its own tone, philosophy, and advice; you’ll have to find what speaks to you.

As executor or trustee, you will probably also have to work with the emotions of others. Beneficiaries and family members may be cooperative and patient—or grasping and unhelpful. Their demands may weigh more heavily on you than do probate court paperwork and investment decisions. On the other hand, you may garner much needed support from the network of family and friends.

You’ll have to develop your own strategies for dealing with difficult family members. (One good use of a lawyer can be as a buffer between you and them.) A few simple actions, however, are always helpful:

• Keep beneficiaries informed about what’s happening (or not happening) with regular letters or email.
• Make sure you have legal authority for everything you do.
• Keep careful records of all actions you take.

Probably the best way to head off spats, and even lawsuits, is regular communication. You may think you don’t have anything to report—but that may be the time beneficiaries most want to hear from you. Even brief email messages, sent regularly, can calm people’s anxieties.

Some executors find it helpful to hold family meetings to discuss ongoing issues. Others avoid such gatherings like the plague, because they know they will only ignite smoldering problems. Some families enlist the aid of a family counselor or therapist who can help people talk—and listen—to each other and work through problems. You’ll have to discover, through trial and error, what works for you and your family.