Writing a Will: Including an Explanatory Letter
Use an explanatory letter to leave your loved ones notes that don't belong in your will.
Writing a will is for strictly legal tasks like naming your executor, beneficiaries for property, and guardians for children. However, as you make your will, you may find that you also wish to:
- explain why you are giving property to certain beneficiaries and not to others
- explain disparities in bequests
- express positive or negative sentiments about a beneficiary
- express wishes about how to care for a pet
- leave instructions for your digital legacy
- explain how shared gifts should be divided, or
- leave your loved ones a statement about your personal experiences, values or beliefs.
You should not do these things within the text of your will document because adding general information, personal statements, or reasons for making or not making a bequest, you risk the possibility of producing a document with conflicting, confusing or possibly even illegal provisions.You can make your will online, quickly and easily, using Nolo's Online Will.
Using an Explanatory Letter
Fortunately, there is a way you can have a final say about personal matters without seriously risking your will's legal integrity. You can write a letter to accompany your will expressing your thoughts to those who survive you.
Because what you put in the letter will not have legal effect as part of your will, there is little danger that your expressions will tread upon the legal language of the will or cause other problems later. In fact, if your will is ambiguous and your statement in the letter sheds some light on your intentions, judges may use the letter to help clarify your will. However, if your statements in the letter fully contradict provisions in your will, you may create interpretation problems after your death. For example, if you cut your daughter out of your will and also state in a letter attached to the will that she is your favorite child and that is why you are leaving her the family home, you are setting the stage for future confusion.
Keeping these cautions in mind, writing a letter to those who survive you to explain why you wrote your will as you did -- and knowing they will read your reasoning at your death -- can give you a great deal of peace of mind during life. It may also help explain potential slights and hurt feelings of surviving friends and family members. This chapter offers some guidance on how you can write a clear letter that expresses your wishes without jeopardizing the legality of your will.
What to Include In Your Letter
What to include in your letter is completely up to you. It can be short or long, whimsical or to the point. Here are some ideas about what you might include:
- An introduction. More than just a nicety, it’s a good idea to begin your letter stating that it is simply an expression of sentiment and that you do not intend it to be yoru will.
- An explanation about why certain gifts were made. You may want to explain why you left a gift to one person, instead of another
- An explanation about disparities in gifts. You may want to explain why you left more to one person than another.
- Suggestions for shared gifts. If you left a gift to a group of people, you may have creative suggestions about how to divide it.
- Positive or negative sentiments. You may want to leave a last word.
- A statement in support of your same-sex relationship. If you’re in a same-sex relationship, you may wish to explain the nature of your relationship to your family or to the court.
- An explanation about your pet. You may want to explain how you decided to whom you left your pet.
Get specific examples for writing your letter in How to Write an Explanatory Letter.
Ethical Wills: Describing Personal Experiences and Values
In addition to the topics listed above, many people choose to leave behind a substantial statement about the experiences, values and beliefs that have shaped their lives. This kind of letter or document is often known as an "ethical will," and it can be of great worth to those who survive you.
While you could legally include an ethical will statement in your regular will -- that is, the one you make to leave your property to others -- we recommend that you include these sentiments in your explanatory letter or in a separate document. The reasons are the same as those mentioned earlier: It's better to avoid including anything potentially confusing or ambiguous in your legal will.
As long as you don't contradict the provisions of your legal will, your options for expressing yourself are limited only by the time and energy you have for the project. You could do something as simple as use your explanatory letter to set out a concise description of your basic values. Or, if you feel inspired, you may leave something much more detailed for your loved ones. Many survivors are touched to learn about important life stories, memories and events. You might also consider including photographs or other mementos with your letter. If writing things down seems like too much effort, you could use an audio or video to talk to those who are closest to you. A little thought will surely yield many creative ways to express yourself to those you care for.
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