Lawyers and Divorce Mediation
Divorce mediation can go more smoothly when you have a legal adviser.
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A legal adviser is a special type of lawyer -- one who is willing to consult with you as an integral part of the mediation process. While business lawyers have long served as consultants to their clients, divorce lawyers have traditionally been accustomed to taking over and handling the entire case.
But as more and more divorcing couples use mediation, the need for consulting lawyers has increased. As a result, many divorce lawyers are becoming mediators, and these lawyers usually are happy to work as consulting lawyers on cases they aren't mediating. (Collaborative law is another option for divorcing without a court battle; see Will Collaborative Divorce Work for You? for more information.)
Why Consult a Lawyer?
At some point before or during mediation, you may want to consult a lawyer about your legal rights. While you can learn a lot about your rights from doing your own legal research, consulting a lawyer can help you get answers that are specifically tailored to your case. An experienced lawyer can:
- Evaluate your options. Before the mediation, a legal adviser/law coach can help you evaluate the option of mediation, select a mediator, and persuade your spouse to mediate.
- Act as a law coach. During the mediation, a legal adviser can act as a law coach on an as-needed basis. Between sessions, you can consult with your legal adviser to clarify questions and prepare for negotiations. A good legal adviser can coach you in negotiating techniques and help you think up creative solutions to propose in the mediation.
- Predict outcomes and costs. A legal adviser can also help predict the range of possible legal outcomes if you were to go to court -- and the cost of paying a lawyer to fight for them. Knowing the possible outcomes can be essential to a successful negotiation.
- Review agreements. Perhaps most important, a legal adviser can review any written agreement prepared by the mediator to make sure that it says what you want it to say and that it will be legally binding once signed.
- Prepare court documents. Finally, your legal adviser can interface with the court, helping you prepare the papers for an uncontested divorce once your settlement agreement is signed, if your mediator does not do that for you.
When to Consult a Legal Adviser
It's a good idea to have a brief consultation with a legal adviser early on during the mediation process. If you wait to consult a legal adviser until after you've already negotiated an agreement, you may be in for some surprises about your legal rights that could undermine your commitment to the agreement you've just negotiated. Going back to mediation and trying to renegotiate the agreement at that point is often disastrous.
If you instead start the process with solid legal information, you can negotiate an agreement that takes into account all of your legal rights. This makes it much less likely that the mediation will fall apart at the last minute.
As your mediation progresses, you should feel free to consult with your legal adviser on an as-needed basis between mediation sessions, whenever you have questions about your legal rights or proposed settlement terms.
Qualifications of a Legal Adviser
Your legal adviser will most likely be a lawyer licensed to practice law in your state. But you will want to look for some more specific qualifications as well.
Expertise in divorce law. You want a lawyer with significant experience in the area of divorce law. In some states, lawyers can get certified as specialists in certain fields of the law. If this is true in your state, consider looking for a certified specialist in divorce law, family law, or matrimonial law. Many certified specialists are quite knowledgeable about mediation and are experienced as consulting lawyers. Their high hourly fee is often justified by the quality and efficiency of their advice and services.
Reputation for integrity. Your legal adviser should have a good reputation for competence, honesty, and respectful treatment of clients. Ask your referral sources about these qualities.
Mediation experience. It is also critical that your legal adviser be experienced in and supportive of mediation. A legal adviser who is ignorant of or hostile to mediation can undermine everything you are trying to accomplish in mediating your divorce. For example, a lawyer who doesn't approve of mediation or who thinks mediation is a good idea but doesn't know enough about it could easily advise you to take a position that is legally correct but extremely adversarial. What you want is advice designed to inform you of your legal rights and to help you promote a reasonable settlement.
Fees for a Consulting Lawyer
Most divorce lawyers charge an hourly fee. Be prepared for the hourly fee to range as high as $250 to $500, especially in or near big cities.
Most divorce lawyers also expect to be paid an initial large retainer (advance deposit) of several thousand dollars to cover the cost of beginning a contested case. However, because you hope that mediating your case will lead to an agreement for an uncontested divorce, you shouldn't have to pay a large retainer to your legal adviser.
Look for a legal adviser who will charge you only by the hour, without a big retainer. When you find a legal adviser who charges by the hour without requiring a retainer, be sure to confirm the fee arrangement in writing.
For information on finding, interviewing, and selecting a legal adviser, as well as how to work best with the legal adviser, see Divorce Without Court: A Guide to Mediation and Collaborative Law, by Kathleen E. Stoner (Nolo).