Candace Smyth is an Attorney and Family Mediator in Washington, DC. After going through her own divorce and healing through the study and practice of yoga, ayurveda, and other healing modalities, she decided to open her own divorce mediation and coaching
I have been a community rights & advocacy attorney for 12+ years, and the quest to eradicate injustice and to seek mutually accepted solutions to difficult legal issues have always been my focus, my fuel & my fire.
A defining moment in my life happened in 2007 when my own marriage ended when our daughter was not quite 2 years old. I was devastated, a complete mess really. I felt really alone and had no idea where to turn. Unfortunately for all of us, our divorce took almost 3 years. I hired an attorney that did not really make me feel like I was in control at all. I spent a few thousand dollars, and I was still not anywhere closer to divorced. We finally agreed to mediate, and it was one of the worst experience ever. I really did not feel the mediator listened to either of us. Getting an agreement was more important than making sure the agreement would really work for us and that the two of us would be the best co-parents possible to our daughter walking out of there. We had to figure it out on our own, and I am happy to say we did and we have.
But, it really should not be that way.
Just years before, I had practiced on the litigious, adversarial side of family law. I knew how painful, difficult, adversarial the process could be. In that role as attorney, I intuitively knew litigation was not the best legal option for negotiating issues between family members. I have never seen anyone walk away from a litigious, adversarial case better off in his or her life. The pain and overwhelm of divorce are only just beginning. I believe that the ending should support the healing process, and this includes the legal ending.
To work through my own grief and ability to communicate with my ex-husband, I studied intuitive healing practices --including meditation, yoga & Ayurveda. These healing modalities have kept me centered in my truth. It is a joy to finally integrate my passions for nutrition, herbal remedies, yoga, and healing into my legal practice.
After going through my own situation, I began noticing that I was not the only one experiencing divorce this way. I realized that unless I created a different approach, everyone would be tied to the same adversarial system or unconscious mediation process as my family.
I see the legal system in family law as another player, but it should not be. I believe that pre-nuptials, separation agreements and divorces should be mediated or at the very least collaboratively processed.
I have since made a commitment to dedicate the my professional life to helping couples with children go through the divorce process, healing along the way so they are better prepared to co-parent with love and effectiveness. Today, I serve as an Attorney and Family Mediator in metro Washington, DC. I inspire and practice mindful mediation. I also provide workshops across the country focusing on restorative yoga, Ayurveda analysis and practical support so that affirmative self-made decisive steps may be taken by attendees. I believe divorce is one of those pinnacle opportunities for personal growth & transformation.
If you are seeking an a divorce mediator in Washington, DC or Maryland with a holistic approach or an experienced mentor to support you through your own litigious or mediated divorce, I would be honored to assist you.